Caring for the caregiver

Caregivers need care, too

The demands and limits of managing Heart Failure (HF) can be frustrating, distressing, and occasionally agonizing. It’s easy to focus so much on your loved one’s health that you overlook your own well-being, which isn’t good for either of you.

Step one is to recognize the reality of Heart Failure

Heart Failure is a long-term, progressive condition. Actively managed, its progress may be slowed in some patients. But one way or another, you’re in this for the long haul. And unless you understand what’s involved, there can be a level of stress for you that can be harmful.

Stressed? It’s not just you.

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You’d be the last person to say so, but looking after a tired or exhausted Heart Failure patient can leave you exhausted—emotionally, as well as physically. It’s more than an impression. Caregivers aged 50+ are more likely to report stress than those in the same age bracket in the general population.

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The challenge to your own health

Caregivers of people with Heart Failure have reported high stress, feeling burdened from the demands on them, depression symptoms, and poor physical as well as emotional health. The fact is, you can’t do the best job of looking after someone with Heart Failure unless you’re also looking after yourself.

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Don’t try to do it alone

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Believing you can shoulder the whole responsibility of caregiving yourself is a recipe for burnout. Put together a strong care team of family, friends, and professionals. Then call on them. For driving to appointments, shopping, cooking, cheerleading—whatever's helpful. And covering for you when you need a break.

Help beyond your inner circle

You’re likely to find advice and support through the American Heart Association. Look for the Caregivers’ section of their website. Get to know the Caregiver Action Network (formerly the National Family Caregivers Association). And consider joining a caregivers’ support group.

Get out more

It doesn’t matter how attached you are. From time to time, taking care of a loved one may leave you feeling drained, even trapped. Don’t wait until frustration and anger get the better of you. Be sure to get out regularly and get away from thoughts of Heart Failure for a while. Meet up with a friend. Go to a movie.

Healthy living—as vital for you as for your loved one

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Neglecting your health won’t help your loved one. Often, what’s good for your Heart Failure patient is also good for you. When you’re juggling chores and errands—and maybe a full-time job—it’s easy to get tired and substitute snacks for meals, or let your own workouts fall by the wayside.

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Try togetherness: eat right and exercise every day

If you live in the same house and prepare the meals, it’s only practical to share your loved one’s heart-healthy diet. That may go for activity, too. Whatever activity the doctor approves for the patient, you may want to share.

Exercise can help mood—and motivation

Physical activity can ease stress and lower the risk of depression. It can help both mood and motivation. If you’re already committed to daily exercise, keep it up. Walking, swimming, dancing, biking, can all be good options. If not, start with the action plan for a Heart Failure patient.

Advocacy and support for caregivers

Couldn’t you use your own source of support?

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No matter how devoted you are to your loved one with Heart Failure, you could probably use some support yourself. But where do you go for help?

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  • Sign up for the Keep It Pumping program,
    including the Heart Failure Handbook

  • Seek out the many resources for caregivers from the American Heart Association at (including downloads). You can also become a member of an AHA caregivers’ community at

  • Explore the Caregiver Action Network (formerly the National Family Caregivers Association) at They provide education, peer support, and resources to family caregivers across the country. Not disease-specific, this site has caregiver stories, videos, community forums, along with a collection of forms and tools you may find helpful

  • Join an in-person support group for caregivers through a well-regarded hospital in your area

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